When to tell

I want to get back into the dating arena and I am embarrassed to say I don’t know how.

It is easier for men to delve into it than women.

I do wonder, when you start dating, when do you tell the person you are bipolar?  How many dates  do you go on before you tell them?

Is it that you are bipolar or that  you have bipolar or that you are in treatment for bipolar?  Do you use bipolar or manic-depression?  Is one term scarier than the other.  Is one term more understood than the other?  Food for thought.

I refuse to let bipolar keep me alone.  I am working on being mentally healthy for me, for as long as possible with as few episodes of mania or depression in between wellness times.

I feel this mental illness has robbed me of a lot of time that I could have been happy but it has also taught me what a supportive person is not and that it is extremely important to have a support system, not just your significant other.  He/ she may burn out.  You need a plan of action for when you are in a relationship just as much as you do when you are not in a relationship.  Maybe even more when you are in one, becasue you want to make sure your episodes or mood changes do not chase the person you want to be with away.  It takes a strong. loving person to be with anyone with a mental illness.  I do believe they can be happy if they decide they are in it together and work together.  It takes more work than the average relationship, but it can be done and happiness can be found.

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Author: Fighter

I finally accepted what people have been telling me. I am full of knowledge and wisdom and I am unforgettable. My word of encouragement since 2015 has been to let others know, despite the waves and ripples in our lives, Life is totally awesome, even with a mental illness. I believe my purpose is to encourage others, advocate for those around me who have not yet found their voice to advocate for themselves and educate those without a mental illness. If for one for minute someone laughs or smiles because of something I said, that is one moment they did not think about mental illness.

2 thoughts on “When to tell”

  1. Here is a cliche, but one that works for me. Your illness does not define who you are. It has some negative impacts at times, but is only a part of who you are. Be yourself, you will know the right time to divulge your information.

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