Sometimes I react to a situation as opposed to responding.
The difference is that when I react, I do not make the right decision or say the right thing and it usually gets me into trouble. My response is usually based on impulse or emotions.
When I respond, it means I have taken time to absorb what has or is happening and usually make a better decision or take a better course of action.
Recently something happened that upset me and I was ready to react irrationally which would have made the situation a great deal worse. I started to cry and get anxious so I played a game on my tablet after I took an anxiety pill. This actually proved to be a good thing because it gave me time to think.
I wrote this down and shared it with my therapist who wanted me to share it on my blog:
When you hear something:
Think about it for a moment and do one of two things
Discard it or let it marinate
If you let it marinate, ask yourself:
Are you getting ready to react or respond?
Is your solution logical or irrational?
Then take the appropriate action
Doing this helped me make the right decision and do the right thing.
No one had hurt feelings including myself.
Had I reacted with my first thought, it would have been an impulsive response and the other person and myself would have been upset and the situation would have escalated.
I keep this note with me and read it to remind myself what I need to do when faced with challenging situations.
Will I always respond instead of react? Not all the time, but I do believe that I will respond more times than I react.
At least that’s the plan.
love to all
pb aka peanut butter