It seems as though every time I come to this site, it has changed. It confuses me sometimes (which I am not ashamed to say)
Anyway, some time ago I realized I have a memory problem at times.
For example: when my children were growing up, I thought I worked a lot of years for 12 months or more at each job. When I printed and viewed my Social Security statement, I saw that there were only 2 or 3 jobs at the most, that I worked a year, give or take a month or two either direction. When I told my therapist we both agreed that, that was time I had lost. No idea what happened during those months I thought I worked.
One time very recently, I asked my daughter how long she had been at her job. She told me 1 year. I argued with her for a while until she told me what year she started working. It blew my mind I could not remember what I had done for a whole year.
Last year there was a problem with the months. I felt as though I was at the end of being sane. A friend of mine came over and was talking with me. I thought we were in the month of June and kept saying June. It was actually July. What happened that I got stuck in June.
I will argue with one family member. This person has an excellent memory. They forget nothing. Every time they state something they have said to me, I argue that they did not. Most of the time, I know they said it, I just don’t remember and try not to let on that I forgot. I try to get them to think they never said it in the first place.
I met a guy a while back. We had a good time. He even texted me the next day that he had a good time. When I did not hear from him, I thought he blew me off. When he did answer his phone, he told me he was sick. No problem right. It seemed as though days passed and I did not hear from him.
I got angry and sent text messages for not calling me. I did not even remember what I had texted so I did not understand why he was so upset. He called me quite upset and told me not to call him again. At least that is what I believed I heard. I cried as though we had been lovers when we had met one time.
He called me some time later. I thought it had been months but it was actually only maybe a week or two at the most if that long. The problem was on my part. I had a problem with days and weeks. I got angry for him not calling because I thought a week or two had passed. It turned out, it had only been a couple of days.
I still lose days sometimes but not as bad. Maybe because I have a calendar on my phone and I can look at it and see what day it is because it is highlighted.
Am I assuming I have memory problems or am I really? Is this something everyone experiences whether they have a mental illness or not?